Right I’m royally fed up! Listen please- and for the love of GOD tell me if I’m wrong.
I have four beautiful children, who are… Sometimes if not a lot of the time- hard work! Aren’t all kids? Anyway… Moving on.
4 years ago, to this day I met a man (I’m divorced from the children’s father btw, and they all have the same one- to clear that up). Ok as I was saying, met this man. He seemed nice, charming and relaxed.
Great! I thought.
4 years on… I work full time. I pay for pretty much everything, including his 2 children who stay some weekends. I’ve asked this guy if he’d like to move in, maybe even marry one day.
I love many aspects of our relationship, we laugh about the same silly stuff. My youngest daughter adores him. We do similar sports.
However! He totally puts me down in raising my children. His views and reality are so different to mine. And yes, I’m fed up with paying all the time :(.
The other day he said “I can’t see me moving in with you!” Because I challenged the fact he does NOTHING around my house. He doesn’t cook, wash up, make the bed- Nadda. Yet has a go at me for not making the kids do more?!
Yes I get his taking on 4 kids- I get that totally. But I DO NOT need financial help. In fact if he moves in, I’ll be supporting him and his two on the weekends he has them.
I keep making up excuses…
I pay all the time because he copes with me having four children. I give up everything for him, because I love him.
Hate to quote, but
Good ol Tina “What’s love gotta do with it?”
Want to try and be unbias here. He’s not used to 4 children. He’s lived without his two for 7 years.
But I never hid the fact I had 4. And I do MORE than my share. Breakfast in bed- Great Sunday roast (I’m a fab cook) And I won’t be modest about it. Look after his kids when he’s off doing stuff.
I’m not exactly a bad looking lass either.
So please tell me I’m doing something wrong! Do I just have too much baggage?
Feel totally fed up. 🙁