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Offended when older/unattractive guys think they have a chance

So, I’m a 19 year old college student. I would consider myself attractive, and don’t have particularly high standards. I don’t get hit on often, but when I do, it’s by really hot guys so idk. I go to a commuter school, which means alot of non-traditional (older) students come here. Yesterday, a slightly older, balding, kinda chubby dude (probably late 20’s to early 30’s) held the door open for me, and when I thanked him, he took it as a go-ahead for an interrogation. He started asking about my life and somehow transitioned the conversation to SERIAL KILLERS. What the fuck? I KID YOU NOT, THIS DUDE CAME WITH ME WHILE I RAN ERRANDS AND WOULDN’T TAKE THE HINT THAT I WANTED TO BE LEFT ALONE. HE GAVE ME HIS NUMBER AND MADE ME TEXT HIM SO HE COULD GET MINE. HE THEN SAYS HE WANTS TO “GET TO KNOW ME BETTER” . He looked hella nervous and was sweating alot too, which REALLY grossed me out. Anyway, he starts pressuring me to go on a date with him, and keeps complimenting me. I can’t help it, but I feel kinda grossed out right now. I don’t care for appearance all that much, but when you’re balding and have a head rounder than a basketball, what makes you think some young college girl would legitimately want anything to do with you? Keep in mind that I tried to let him know I wasn’t interested, but apparently wasn’t straightforward enough because he still thinks he has a chance. HE WON’T LEAVE ME ALONE GUYS PLEASE HELP. Phew. Rant over.

Can anyone else relate? I literally feel like throwing up right now.

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  1. GRAAAH

    I burst out laughing while reading this.

  2. Incelsior

    In response to the original post:

    I’m so sorry. I truly am remorseful upon reading your thoughts.

    I don’t know what to say to get your forgiveness. I didn’t know that this is how I made you feel. I sincerely and without any reservation, submit my most humblest solemn apologies.

    Tears stream down my face from the shame I feel at causing you the anguish that you feel. I just did not know that I made you feel this way. As I wipe away the tears and type this message to you, please know that I will never darken your surroundings with my presence. You are absolutely correct- I should have never engaged in conversation with you. It was my exuberance and arrogant ego that was lifted and a swell in my heart grew when an angel as beautiful as you stopped to talk to me. I had never had the warm radiance of a girl’s alluring charm and enchanting beauty captivate me like that. But no more- It will never happen again. This I swear to you.

    I will forever be a silent gargoyle, adrift in my deep sorrow for causing offence and insult. Please, rest assured, I have deleted your number with swift purpose, and take a solemn oath to never call you for any reason.

    If ever, by chance, our paths were to cross again in passing- my gaze will be dropped in your direction and you will only be presented with the smile of a polite stranger.

    In closing, I want you to know that I meant no harm and that the compliments were genuine. I have been well and truly enlightened to my station in life, and you will never have to fear me or my ubiety…

    Yours in passing,

  3. Anonymous

    Why do some girls think they’re attractive just because they are college age? Hello, your good for a screw or two and that’s it, look at your moms.

  4. Anonymous

    So, you are above average in IQ, and looks, so have you been polity flirting with guys your own age? That is a normal thing. Don’t try to extend that to your 40’s though, I hear MGTOW and whatever. But I’m goth, so…

    When you feel someone is creepy, they just might be. Like the Bible says, just let a fool talk and they will reveal themselves. Once you recognize, give no quarter.

  5. Anonymous

    Ugly men are way more likely to rape you. That’s why I avoid them. I don’t want them within 50 feet of me. If an uggo even so much as twitches wrong, I report them for sexual harassment. Gotta stay safe, girls. Never trust an uggo. If he’s ugly, he’s a rapist.

  6. theshy

    a ugly fat bald middle aged married man raped me when i was at a college. you got to get away from him. its irrelevant on your looks or his. if you feel a bad vibe then it is there for a reason. why would anyone talk about serial killers as a pick up line then demand your phone number. you should not have given it to him. be strong. don’t let him rape you and make you afraid. you have a right to find the type of man that suits you. and most of us are not as attractive as we think we are. even the most hottest men or women I can find a physical fault with. but look at it, you got to just pass him by and learn to ignore him. next time you see him, look through him as if you never met and keep doing that. if he keeps upsetting you tell him to get lost and call the police about him. you don’t deserve some sleaze. we all get nervous sometimes but if there is something strange that makes you uncomfortable trust your gut feeling. it doesn’t matter on looks. i met men who are nice looking who creeped me out too. so just trust your gut. i probably shouldn’t tell you this but I met a hot looking guy who I let into a hotel room one morning and he knew I was alone with my friends while they were out and he said ” guess what you shouldn’t have let me in cuz now i am going to hurt you” so I ran out the door to my friends and we all had a similar experience with him in the hotel and listen here, looks don’t stop a rapist or murder from committing crimes! don’t trust any man or most women cuz i been sexually abused by them too. be careful who you hang out with. get your mother to come to library with you next time.

  7. chattycatty

    I can relate to this completely. I am in my 40s now but when I was your age I got that too. This balded fat guy who looking back now my mom and I both agree he was lying about his age and was much older then he was making out. so many guys try to fake they are only in their 20s and they are really at least 46-50. I think that my mum said to me at the time “oh every girl has their share of weirdos chasing them who don’t get the hint and who are completely off beam for them” I was 16 and a man of 48 was chasing me to the point of embarrasing everyone around us and it made me feel less then my friends as he got people then to hate on me and some old rich woman to feel sorry for him saying “oh young girls today are so rude and can’t see a good catch when they call a man too old for them” but he was too old and boring. my advice is be blunt and tell him to fuck off and say you are going out with another man. tell a few hot guys about it and ask them to go out with you to make it look like your a couple and also find someone else to tell him to back off like you can go to a college counsellor about sexual harassment you know. don’t suffer it out alone go talk about it with your doctor or someone you trust. my advice is be a complete bitch and don’t look back love. its hard but if you don’t you will end up with him never getting the hint. I gave in to one old creeper and it took years to get it through his head to fuck off. I used to be so sick of him and he just never got the message and I got frightened he would attack me so we went on a date and don’t ever do that. say to him. “sure I will go a date with you as long as my mom and dad comes along as well, they like to protect me from men like you !’ and hang up. block his number or get a new phone number. call the police if he doesn’t stop. or you will end up so hurt and in pain you will end up a stalker or harming yourself or someone else.

  8. Anonymous

    If that’s the case, than just round up all the fat, ugly, fat and ugly landwhale “women” on earth and disintegrate em all!

    I have slept with 150+ women, none were fat or ugly, I will never fuck a fat chick or an ugly chick or any fat ugly chicks.

    Don’t care if they have money or not!

    I did get set up on a blind date once as a favor to a pal, his girlfriends best friend was always being a 3rd wheel pain in the arse, so he begged me to “date” her for one night to keep her busy so he could spend time with his woman without her fat ass tumor of a pal attached, I agreed and took one for a pal.

    Anyway, she claimed her family owned what was left of the eastman-kodak company, she had tons of $, every day she’d show up in a different vehicle, a Lincoln, a Caddy, an old showroom condition 67 Camaro, a Ferrari etc., she was a nice chick, but totally NOT my type at all!

    She kept on coming around my house every single day for like 3 months, most times bearing gifts I didn’t ask for or need or want, she tried sooooo hard to buy me and hook up with me, I saw it coming and wasn’t stupid, I just flat out said one evening, “I know you like me, and sure, you have a nice face, but, sorry to admit it, I am just not attracted to fat chicks at all and only see you as a friend and nothing more!”

    Just when you think guy’s get all mad/sad when they hear that shit, this chick went mental!

    She started crying and crying and yelling and while calling me a shallow asshole she kept trying to tell me how much she loved me and wanted to be with me, how hot she thought I was and she tried hugging/holding me and got very clingy and started trying to take her clothes off, as if that was going to change my mind.

    i told her, “please don’t take your clothes off, that will just turn me off more!”
    and I was like, “damn, we just met a couple months ago, I’ve never kissed you or fucked you and never will, how can you think you “love” me?”

    She kept coming around for another month or so and kept calling me for almost a year, than I finally quit hearing from her fat ass and was glad!

    On top of being a tub of shit, she was soooo fucking annoying and I had many more way better women to do!

    That shit’s all true too! lol

  9. Anonymous

    Don’t worry, you aren’t nearly as attractive as you think you are. No one is interested in a horrible, pretentious girl.

  10. Human

    If you have the guts to tell him to f*** off, it’ll be done.

    • Anonymous

      A woman is more likely to say she doesn’t want a relationship right now. What that translates to is she doesn’t want a relationship with YOU.
      Or she’ll say “I have a boyfriend” which translates to either way she’s not interested.

  11. Anonymous

    All ugly, short, balding guys (old or young) should be put to death. They are like cancers.

  12. Anonymous

    http://theplacetorant.com/ugly-creepy-guys/comment-page-9/#comment-25950

    To think that this could be you, awesome how humans are so different and yet the same at the core.
    The situation you rant about is something very complicated but it should, in my eyes, be something pretty simple. Obviously it is not simple for everyone and sadly this happens to a lot of people ( most of which are ‘coincidentally’ women) and i honestly don’t see if stopping for a pretty long time.
    This kind of situation is especially frustrating because simply putting it there is no win situation in here, a win-win situation even less so.
    They way i see it you reacted in the best way someone in that kind of situation could have reacted. Some people will tell you: “You should have had more confidence! You shoulda told him to fuck himself and get his ugly ass outta your face.” Or something along those lines. In a perfect world you should have looked him in the eye, given him a really small smile full of empathy and politely (but still in a kinda deadpan tone is my style) said: “I can see what you are trying to do and quite honestly it is bothering me a lot and i am not interested. I would be really thankful if you could remove yourself from my sights.” (i never said i was good with words) Or something with the same meaning but less agressive? idek.
    But sadly, even though sometimes i like to think differently, we do not live in a perfect world (pretty damn close tho) and there is just no way of knowing what he (the guy) would do, how he would react. He could politely apologise and get out asap, he could pull a face but still get out, he could mutter “Bitch.” just loud enough for you to hear, which, by the way, was not his intention, haha; he could get really angry and break some stuff or just slam the door on his way out, or he could go mad and assault you. Really there is no way of telling with some people.
    Actually in a perfect world i don’t the kind of situation you went through happening but that’s just me being my naive self.
    Just another thing to my rant: you say that you don’t mind appearance that much, nah fam, yeh you do. It’s something deeply ingrained in our generation and that’s not okay but that’s okay, get it? Don’t beat yoself over it, not really your fault. I’m out.

  13. Anonymous

    You may not like it, but it’s true. Women are even worse offenders than men when it comes to looks. They’re just socialized to be much better at hiding it. This realization is why I spent over $75,000 on plastic surgery and steroids. I sold my house and moved into a single room flat to pay for it all, and it was by far the best investment I ever made! The improvement in my life and overall happiness was astronomical. I went from being ostracized, treated like utter trash and shoved into the “creep zone” because of my appearance, to being desired, liked and adored. I finally have a girlfriend. Plastic surgery made that possible. I can’t adequately put into words what it feels like to finally love and be loved after 30 years of being affection starved to the point of suicide. I’m serious. Plastic surgery was my last and final hope after having exhausted every other self-help option under the sun. If it wasn’t for plastic surgery, I would be dead now.

    • Anonymous

      Are you being factitious?

    • Anonymous

      You lying prick!
      First off, straight MEN do NOT get plastic surgery/cosmetic surgery!
      So now we all know that you’re just gay and lame and hadto pay to be slightly less ugly, meanwhile plastic surgeries only make everyone that gets it done look far worse!

      • Anonymous

        LMAO! This is the dumbest shit I ever heard. You have no idea what you’re talking about, and it shows.

    • Anonymous

      I, too, had cosmetic surgery, and can confirm that it made a significant difference in my love life. A rhinoplasty, hair restoration and a jaw implants made the difference between constant rejection by average and homely women, and being actively pursued by beautiful women. It’s crazy. I never expected anything like this. Women are indeed extremely visual beings, far more so than they would want us to think.

  14. Anonymous

    author won’t say that if the guy is filthy rich LOL. <— truth 1000% correct

    by the way, just be more honest, it's way better for everyone than if you want to keep ur image as the best girl but deep inside u're just like any other girl, if you're honest, u should get more of what u want………… that's what i think. just shove away that poor thing harshly.

    or u find out more about him, if he's rich, i am sure you won't mind him.

    by the way, i am a man……………

  15. Anonymous

    All ugly men need to be rounded up and put in concentration camps. Their very existence is sexual harassment.

    • Anonymous

      ugly and POOR MEN u mean?

      u will accept ugly but FILTHY RICH MEN, ADMIT IT BITCH.

      i still like, can accept and understand girls who admit if she likes just any rich men, but i hate bitch that won’t admit it even if they whore themselves to filthy rich men, just like YOU.

    • Anonymous

      A good ugly guy is a dead ugly guy

      • Anonymous

        Nah, we need them alive, but as slaves. We’ll share the hot guys for breeding stock and sexual fulfillment, and in return, they have their freedom. All the rest of men would be consigned to a lifetime of manual labor and dangerous jobs. Ugly men aren’t worthless. Quite the contrary. We need them. Just not sexually.

    • Anonymous

      exactly, they should be sent to some remote island so we don’t need to deal with them anymore.

  16. Anonymous

    An older guy, and I would also say he was unattractive in my honest opinion, came on to me and I felt so uncomfortable. He tried to give me a phone. Asked me for a hug, and me being the meek/shy girl that I was I just hugged him and he started moaning.
    Gross.

    And I am glad that was the end to it. No way would I ever go further the biggest mistake any older guy can make is thinking of taking advantage of younger women.

    Don’t call a woman a golddigger though, that is just an embarrassing last resort to soothe a man’s bruised ego. (There are far more men that seem to take advantage of women it seems to me. (example that older man who tried to PUSH a phone on to me and I never asked him for anything or even want anything from him.)

    I have an older brother that I’ve received a lot of abusive words/passive agression from my older brother who has a problem with the opposite sex and takes it out on me when he knows I hate his guts.

    The guy just doesn’t get that my hatred for him stems from the way he has treated me and for the person he is inside. A bitter, homophobic, sexist and generally negative, hateful man. He puts down anyone and everyone as if he can judge. People that are getting on with their lives and doing something for themselves, how and why do they deserve his nasty comments? He has also very unfairly tried to manipulate me in to being his carer and the person responsible for him when I am 6 years younger than him. He does absolutely nothing to help around the house and his general presence is heavy and offensive to me.

    Says stupid things such as “my bones have melted” blames his parents for something they said several years back and clings to it. “You told me not to go out that’s why I stay indoors” NO. Own up to the fact that you have anxiety or some other mental illness. How wrong and unfair to cling to that one line. We all have to take accountability and responsibility for our own lives even if our parents, people/ others in the world have damaged or wounded us somehow.

    It’s a huge unfair burden to put on anyone, blaming them for everything and not taking any accountability for yourself. I could do with a lot of help myself and don’t need the added attempt at covert incest in the past. Yes the retard cannot see (or refuses to see) what he is doing and it just disgusts me in general.)

    He’s so negative and puts me down for anything that I like or enjoy too. Makes vile remarks such as maybe it’s time for (my name) to get married.

  17. Anonymous

    Hi Author, if a guy who was late twenties to early 30s was more attractive and not balding and had a nice physique would you be more likely to reciprocate?

  18. Dan

    And dont be so ageist.No adult is too old or young for any other adult…

  19. ANON

    Just scream and run. Yes SCREAM! When he comes after you just SCREAM. Say LEAVE ME ALONE!!

  20. Anonymous

    Looks is everything, how could you say it is not?

  21. Anonymous

    well, i’m 26 and bald, but shaved, i never try to approach hot girl let alone younger hot girl but, whether you believed or not 4 hot younger girl around 22-23 years old hit on me in the last 2 year, very beatiful girl…
    I don’t know if here in italy it’s different but i think that guy who hit on you was ugly overral, and creepy as hell, wasn’t he???
    Anyway i also got approached by ugly chick and that annoyed me a lot so i kinda feel you on that, it’s annoying as fuck but don’t be too harsh if someone you don’t like tries to approach you nicely……

    • Anonymous

      Author here, yeah, I didn’t mean to come off as so harsh, but this guy was way to old for me and was really aggressive so I was really irritated when I made this post. Obviously, looks aren’t everything, but I personally dislike when guys approach me and act like they’re entitled to be with me

      • Anonymous

        yes, that’s totally legit…..

      • Anonymous

        Looks ARE of primary importance and you know it. Please, just stop already with this “obviously looks aren’t everything” crap.

        • Anonymous

          They aren’t once you’re already in a long-term relationship. But, to be in a long term relationship, you have to be attractive.

      • Anonymous

        Yeah,coming from a guy it’s hard to be honest and upfront with guys like that because they get all immature and act like jerks even more when you tell them you’re not interested straight up or they just keep pestering you anyway,so the best thing to do is be polite and tell them what they want to hear to get them off your back so you can make a clean break and move on.

      • Dan

        Well the thing is, balding guys over 30 pick up college girls all the time.Some college girls prefer bald old men.So why shouldn’t he try his luck? Should he boycott hitting on all younger women just because you dont like it?
        Granted he should have taken the hints that you werent interested much earlier, and backed off.Normally it doesnt take too much to signal a guy your not interested.

        • Anonymous

          It’s totally fine if you’re aware of social cues, but this dude was being really persistent and annoying about it. He just didn’t get the hint and was saying really creepy things.

          • Anonymous

            You just gave you cell # to a creepy fucktard. You’re totally gutless in life so far. Any woman with an ounce of courage would not even think of giving her number to a goof that talks about serial killers. Just keep walking next time and say “Not interested” You’re not obligated to talk to anyone. Period! Grow a set!

            • Duh

              Do you know how many women get hurt or killed for being straight up with guys? Sometimes you have to weasel your way out of a situation so the other person doesn’t get aggressive

        • Diamondguy

          Dan its clear your an ugly guy. The only chicks bald ugly guys can pick up are fat ugly trolls. Be it college or Zimbabwe.

          Wait a minute…

          Your probably a bald ugly guy ain’t ya!

      • Anonymous

        Lol OP is just being salty because she is ugly and can’t get any hot guy.

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