What makes it okay for a girl to think you can be friends after a break up? Seriously, it’s a lot more painful for the guy, especially when you know what buttons to press. Saying things like, “I don’t want to lose you” or “I just don’t want you to think we’d ever get back together” are terrible ways to express how you truly feel. My most recent breakup involved a girl a that I care about deeply still. She was unhappy in the relationship according to her, yet the reason she was unhappy was negated because I came to visit her. So, she never told me to my face what the issue was. She decided after 2 years of dating that she’d break up with me over spring break, while we were in Florida together with 3 days remaining. It was painful, we got into fights and me being a guy, wanted to know why and all she had to say for herself was, that she felt it was the right thing for her. I grew to accept that.. but then a week goes by and we start talking out of her request and because of this we get into it again. It’s been almost 2 months.. we’ve hung out three times, she says she feels uncomfortable around me, but I know the real reasoning is that she’s basically argued herself into a corner. I’ve wanted to get back with her, but I’m slowly losing that desire and I don’t want to… I don’t hate her.. I hate that I’ve got these feelings for her.. I just want her to understand and accept them. So.. tear me apart, ask me questions.. whatever you feel is appropriate..