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Why do some people have to act like bitches?

Before I start, I would just like to say the reason why I’m posting this rant is so that I’m no longer affected by this small situation and hopefully just move on from it as I always let small things like this situation affect me quite a lot.

So in November 2015, I posted this picture I had found on twitter on my Instagram that says “Buy an old bus, replace the seats with beds and road trip the states with good people” (despite not living in the states) and has a picture in correspondence to this caption.

Initially, the description for this post was to my two best friends, saying that we should do this along with an inside joke we had, and later tagged two more friends to the post as we were a group of 5 (as in our friendship group – yes I realise this might sound really cheesy/cringey, but I am only a 15 y/o so leave me be XD). Recently, me and one of my best friends (let’s called her X) and a fallout with the other best friend (let’s call her Y) and the two other friends we always hung out with. This fallout was due to a negative atmosphere that me and X started to find and no longer wanted to be a part of. Unfortunately, the fallout was very messy and complicated and took about a total of 4 days (that is quite long considering how easily the situation could’ve been avoided – however this would take far too long to explain) to sort out and today X and Y still haven’t actually cleared up the issues between them – despite almost three months having almost passed. So now me and X hang out with a group of friends that we feel comfortable with and are much happier around compared to before.

Now, when the situation was resolved between the three friends and me (me and X had separate problems with the group so we solved our problems separately), I thought that things were okay between us now and that they would understand that things couldn’t go back to how they were and would have to accept that we would still be friends, but not as close as before and things would be very different between us now.

Now that I’ve explained the background of what my situation is, I can finally (>.<) go on to what I actually need to rant about. So today I stayed at home from school due to being ill. And I was having a relatively good day even though I wasn't feeling 100% until I saw a notification. It was an Instagram notification stating that one of the two friend (not X or Y, let's call her Z), commented the following on the post previously described:
Z: Are we (@Y and @other friend who was tagged originally in the post) uninvited now?
– In case anyone is confused she's referring to the road trip mentioned in the post –
Then Y proceeded with the following comment:
Y: @Z guess we were uninvited (frog face emoji) (teacup emoji)

Now I know that this is a very small comment and shouldn't affect me but it did. When the fallout happened, I had told them very clearly that I was a very sensitive person and that I did get upset about the comments they would make towards another situation. And because I am a very sensitive person, this comment did ruin my day. Not only has it ruined my day, but it has now made me quite angry and put me in disbelief. Disbelief about the fact that they would act like bitches even though it's not anything major and that it was simply due to the fact that I felt that it was awkward to still have them tagged since Y and X still haven't made up, but it also made me think if they lack some sort of common sense (now, I'm not calling them stupid , Z and Y do work hard at school and can really succeed if they put even more effort into their work but they simply don't want to – why, I honestly don't know), surely if we've had a fallout, and I no longer hang out with you (you being Z and Y – and the other friend although she isn't involved in this situation – and hopefully won't join) then don't expect me to still have a post up with you tagged in it where it's about the future and we all know none of us will probably still be a part of each others.

I honestly don't understand why but this does occur quite often, not necessarily towards me, but to anyone who they simply get into an argument with in the past, despite the fact they they've probably made up. And it makes me so annoyed and angry that they think it's okay to act like this and not think for even a bit that maybe some of their comments could hurt someone. In fact, Z is someone who can be quite selfish at times.

(If you would like to read about what I mean by her being selfish or bitchy then I'll have another situation/story written up below marked by ***, however it doesn't bother me if you don't read it. I'll just proceed with the rant now.)

So I guess to kind off conclude this rant, I'll just finish off with the following:
I do not understand the need for people to be rude with others. I do not understand why the world today is so full of hatred and people who think that it is okay to do whatever they like without thinking of the consequences.

Of course I'm NOT saying that Z and Y shouldn't have the right to act how they wish or comment whatever they like, but I wish that people like them could be more mindful and actually take a second and think if this is the type of person that they really want to be.
Because honestly, there are many people in this world who may feel the same way as I do and dislike this type of behaviour (?? I guess I could call it that) and they won't be as accepting towards this sort of behaviour unlike the people that know them (e.g friends, or people in their class, ect.).

But why do they have to act like such bitches? I thought that despite things being different, they would understand that we could still be friends, just not as close. Why do they have to feel the need to put people down constantly (this isn't shown in what I've talked about, but it happens far too often) and act as if what they've said or done is okay? Because I don't think it's okay. People, like me, who do get affected my words easily can very easily let these type of things consume them.

Words hurt. That is the truth and I think it's time that people really understood this. Opinions are fine. Just please be a bit more mindful about how they are presented, because far too often have I seen people on YouTube for example, attacked for stating their opinion in a rude way, despite the fact that it was not their intention.

And this concludes the end of my rant. I'm sorry if you found that this was a waste of your time, but I really needed to let this out somewhere because I can't take it anymore.

Thank You x

P.S: the other friend just commeted as well. She simply said: Oh (brokenheart emoji)

(The story I mentioned earlier)
*** So at the beginning of this year, a new girl joined our school, and was in our form class, this was all before the fallout. This girl was extremely sweet and very funny and had a very nice personality. But because she had recently moved back from where she was previously (they had taught her English fluently at her previous school – not in the UK) she was quite unfamiliar with the area and there relied on Z and other friend to get home. One day they decided to walk home instead of taking the bus. Now the new girl at first knew where they were as it was close to a family friends house however, later on, Z and her got into a small argument. This led to the new girl saying, " Fine I won't walk with you guys if I'm such an embarrassment" and went off. Now Z and the other friend didn't stop her and went back home. However, later that day they found out that the new girl had actually gotten lost, almost had an accident because of a car and was crying the whole way home once she had called her mum to pick her up from a road she found that was unfamiliar. Now X, Y and I told the two other girls that they should apologise and understand why the new girl was now furious with them. And whilst the other friend understood and genuinely felt sorry and wanted to make up with her, Z simply kept saying " Why should we (not even I – she said we)?" " It's not our fault she almost got run over/ got lost". And we kept telling her that she should apologise because it was her and the other friend who had forced her(new girl) to walk home with them despite being more comfortable and feeling safer taking the bus, and then being left to find her way back home from an area that was unknown to her. Both of them could've tried to run back to her and tell her to at least continue walking with them or given her directions or something but they didn't. At least the other friend felt horrible for what had happened and kept apologising but Z didn't. And she is like this. This is the reason why Z is often seen by others as selfish/ extremely rude. Very often, she rarely thinks about others when she's stuck in a situation and often tries to act as if she didn't actually do anything wrong. This is why despite Z being nice to friends (and was nice to me 3/4 of the time), is still disliked by many more than those who don't***

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  1. Trixie

    obviously the government will cover it up and say it is a military operation -.-’i do believe that its some illusion… they flash maybe from a camera or soet3hing&#82m0;i also believe that there are aliens out there… but if it was a ufo, i would think it would be bigger that some 1 ball looking wobbly light…

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